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Bannishment on Support Forums « Thread Started on Mar 3, 2005, 2:12am »
Speak out on this IMPORTANT ISSUE!
People who go to support forums go there for support, understanding and compassion. Lately, we have been getting word that many members of these support groups for NO REAL GOOD REASON are finding they have been banned, most times without even so much as a warning. Even worse, for some of these people, it comes at a very emotional point in their lives.
Do you feel support forums should be more careful in CALLOUSLY banning members?
Re: Bannishment on Support Forums « Reply #1 on Mar 4, 2005, 5:00pm »
That's a good question and, by the way, thanks for setting up this forum. People who are being considered for banishment (usually due to complaints from other members) should be given the benefit of the doubt and a chance to explain themselves. Most of us live in pain or with med conditions that will effect our moods, or sometimes even have us use the wrong choice of words when we post our opinions on a subject. Things like that should be taken into consideration before banishing someone. I've seen forum members post things that are really offensive or openly attack other members and they don't ever get in trouble. Go figure that one out! Most forums I've seen allow you to express yourself as long as you don't use offensive language and use some common sense. They're run as a public forum without any favorites. However, I've also noticed that some of the most popular forums seem to have little groups who do their best to be close to the webmaster or person running this forum. That's what I call favorites because you seldom will see one of these people be called up even when they've posted something offensive to others. Oops! I'm going off on a rant right now. Some forum members I've seen banished really needed a little more help than others and by shutting them up, I feel, it could hurt them more than help them and these forums are supposed to be set up to help people in need of that special support. We already get sort of banished by our old friends and even family! Well, I hope I don't get banished now for speaking my mind. TEXTTEXTTEXT
Life is what we ourselves choose to make out of it.
Joined: Feb 2005 Gender: Male Posts: 52 Location: Reside just north of New York
Re: Bannishment on Support Forums « Reply #2 on Mar 4, 2005, 5:07pm »
Hi Targus:
First and foremost, WELCOME! I hope you will find this a fun and worthwhile place to spend time, and please tell your friends about us.
Secondly, I agree with you, that support forums need to be more understanding of the issues certain people face because of illness, disease or emotional issues that are great stress causers in their lives. For instance, right now I am facing surgery for my ulnar nerve, and am a bit more terse than I like to admit because of the constant pain I am in right now.
Because of that, and having seen some things on sites that surprised me, decided I wanted to create a support forum that truly considers bannishment a LAST RESORT. Just do not think it fair to banned someone that might see my site as their one and only last place to find some help, compassion and understanding.
Again, welcome, and hope to see you posting often.
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Re: Bannishment on Support Forums « Reply #3 on Mar 5, 2005, 9:13am »
Hi All,
I agree with both of you. In my opinion, people should be given the benefit of the doubt and an option to explain themselves before they are banished into oblivion. Most moderators I think get trigger happy and hit that banish button far too quickly than they should because they feel they have power and position to do so. But in a fair society --even an online society - a cited individual should be given the opportunity to hear what the complaint is about them, have the option to explain their position, and given the opportunity to rectify the situation before they are exiled. Not affording these options is completely stupid and unfair. In the real world (especially in places of employment where there are civil service rules and regulations) cited individuals are given the opportunity to speak to their issues, prove their position and case, and be heard. This may happen over several hearing periods until the final decision is made by authorities. An employee is terminated only when they have clearly demonstrated that they have not abided by the rules and are not willing to work. In this situation, the cited individual should be given similar options rather than none.
Moderators also need to be impartial, even to their friends, when they are assigned this kind of position in a support group. In most cases they aren't impartial, and they side with their buddies, which to me is indicative of their immaturity and inability to remain impartial and objective. If this is the case then they should not be moderators and should be put back with the masses. Additionally I see that moderators enjoy forming cliques and encourage that mindset with their favorite members. This is Junior and Senior High School behavior, and it sets an uncomfortable tone for people who simply want to obtain support or assist in offering support, and do not want to be part of the clique.
Bravo to DD for setting up a safe place where rants are OK! Thank you!
Life is what we ourselves choose to make out of it.
Joined: Feb 2005 Gender: Male Posts: 52 Location: Reside just north of New York
Re: Bannishment on Support Forums « Reply #4 on Mar 7, 2005, 11:44am »
Survivor:
First and foremost, WELCOME.
Secondly, just so you and everyone else knows here on Brain Talk Rejects, there is only one person who has the ability to remove posts, and ban members, and that is myself as the Administrator of this site. I will not be banning anyone without first giving them a second, even third and forth chance, and even then, will not be banning them without serious email discussions looking for a way to keep a person here.
The only EXCEPTIONS to this rule, are spammers and online perps that take great glee in posting deliberately inflammatory stuff meant to push buttons and set off triggers. I am not expecting to much problem with this, since certain of our boards will be locked...an example of this is our survivors board...to get access to that board, a member will need to private message me for the password, as I feel survivors need a space to talk that is not readily readable by the mass population of our site.
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Re: Bannishment on Support Forums « Reply #5 on Jul 14, 2006, 9:45am »
The Mods at bt are some of its long time members.
They made a mockery of their banning proccess by play acting banning of 2 of it's most popular members. Created an uproar of protest. More people got banned for questioning the banning. Some for 30 days, some are still banned. Those to "ladies" are mods. I could name the mod number each was/is. One is not active as mod currently. Im sure you can easily guess which one.
They do play favorites.
But I hope you do realize that bt in essence is just a research project. An in depth search will show you papers that have been written about the "community."
The powers that be at bt create senarios, conflict, emotionally rape the members. All for their own purposes.
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